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    From the Pastor

    Rev. Scott Crane

    Family Dynamics...

    There has been much talk, over the years, about helicopter parents. They hover over their children in an attempt to keep everything as perfect as possible. Recently, someone coined the term, snowplow parents. Evidently, this describes parents who are out in front of their children trying to remove every obstacle that lies in the path. One article gave this description, “These are the folks who would like to hand-select their young child’s classmates, or who bribe coaches for more playing time, or who encourage teachers to pay extra attention to their child at the expense of other students.”

    Everyone can think of parents like this. We may have even been like this at times with our own kids. An extreme version of this has been in the news lately, where celebrities, among others, have gone to illegal means to get their children into the college of their choice.

    Ultimately, whether a child’s parents are helicopters or snowplows, the message is the same. Such overzealousness on behalf of the child does not help. It hinders the natural growth and development of the child. It keeps them from maturing into healthy adulthood.

    I confess, when I first began to pastor, I had these feelings that I should be protective like this to parishioners. I wanted to keep them from undue stress or discomfort, as well as wanting to fix things for them. I would, often, desire to jump out and try to handle crisis in ways that would cut it off before it got to others.

    Needless to say, being a “helicopter” or “snowplow” in the lives of others can be very draining. As well, it also can keep others from taking on responsibility that allows for healthy growth and development. In good family dynamics (or any group dynamics), each individual needs to take on responsibility at a level that is appropriate. If this does not happen, then individuals can become stagnant and development hindered.

    It is important for any leader to allow every member of the group – family, church, or otherwise – to be full participants. Doing less creates an unhealthy pattern. The real goal is to empower each member to live up to their fullest and to be a participant in the larger family, church, or community.

    In our world of consumerism, there is this tendency to not take responsibility for the issues around us. We are good at blaming others. Someone else is the problem or cause thereof. Unfortunately, when no one steps up to take responsibility, guilty or not, then issues continue to go on unabated.

    How do we move away from being the helicopter/snowplow parent on one hand (attempting to be a savior) and totally abdicating any responsibility on the other? We need to recognize, while we cannot change the behavior of others, we can make sure that we are taking our responsibility seriously. Yes, there will always be others that try to control others. Yes, there will always be others that shirk responsibility. But, how do we, in our lives, take the right road, the higher path?

    The church’s task is to resource individuals to increase in their love of God and their love of neighbor. Yet this love cannot happen merely in words; it must take place in transformed lives. Indeed, how can we really attempt to influence or encourage spiritual and moral growth in others if we are not willing to allow that same growth to change our own lives?

    As each member of any family, church or community, strives to be healthier and allow their life to be transformed, then the larger system improves. It does seem counterintuitive and, perhaps, even feels inefficient. Yet, it is self-reflection and honesty that allows individuals to become, not only better people, but great leaders to those around them. They do not need to control others but, rather, help to empower them along the road to health and wholeness.

    Grace & Peace,
    Pastor Scott